by Amberly Wrubleski | Dec 13, 2024 | Client Stories
A Cop’s Wife’s Perspective
This heartfelt letter from a cop’s wife offers a raw and intimate look into the sacrifices, challenges, and love shared within law enforcement families. It serves as a reminder of the strength, courage, and resilience officers display daily, often unseen by the public. Through this letter, a cop’s wife reflects on the personal struggles and profound pride in supporting her partner, a police officer, as he navigates a career full of risks and rewards. The life of a cop’s wife is one of constant worry, sacrifice, and unwavering support for her partner.
The Preparation Before the Shift
I wish you guys could see his face, his preparation, and his determination before he leaves for a shift. As a cop’s wife, I watch him carefully prepare, knowing he’s ready for whatever challenges the night may bring. His face may be tired from long hours, but in his heart, he couldn’t feel more alive living out his calling. As the wife of a cop, I see firsthand how his commitment goes beyond the uniform; it’s about serving the community. He prepares endlessly, whether through physical or spiritual training, and the determination of a WARRIOR radiates from his being. He’s ready for battle, and his goal at the end of every shift is to go HOME, where he’s loved and where he’s safe.
Late Night “What If” Talks
I wish you guys could be a fly on the wall as we lay there in the dark at night, quiet, hearts beating loud as we have those “What if” talks . . . We plan out our family’s future as if he weren’t in the picture anymore, funeral plans, and how I would make income to supplement his after he’s gone.
The anguish in my heart is so loud at times, but then peace calms my spirit as he graciously says, “I will be called home by God to God doing what I loved the most, face to face with my Creator. If I’m at peace with that, then you need to be at peace with that as well.”
. . . There wouldn’t be a dry eye in the room. As a cop’s wife, I feel that weight every day, knowing the dangers that lurk just around the corner.
The True Sacrifice and Commitment of a Cop’s Wife
I wish you guys would truly appreciate him, his sacrifices, and his service before God forbid he became a news alert on your phone, a Facebook article you read, or an officer’s funeral that you attend. He’s human, he’s a peacemaker, and he’s my husband. He’s the father and mentor to our children. I sometimes wonder if people truly understand what it means to be the partner of a police officer, to be the cop’s wife who stands beside him through every challenge, every shift, every change in the world he navigates daily.
He doesn’t do this for the pay, he doesn’t do it for retirement, and he doesn’t do this for “show.” He chose this career as a lifelong profession because it’s his calling in life. He endures it to make a difference in the life of a suspect or civilian. He can give wisdom to a felon and healing to a victim. He’s my Super Hero, better than any Marvel character you could possibly think of. And yet, at the end of the day, as a cop’s wife, I know it’s me he’s coming home to.
How You Can Support Law Enforcement Families
Lastly, whenever you think of us, could you pray for us? Whenever you see another article, good or bad, about an officer no matter the region, keep our Thin Blue Line family in prayer as well. Pray for our marriage, that we’d endure and surpass the divorce rate that’s skyrocketing within law enforcement marriages. Pray for our home, that it would be his safe haven and filled with PEACE when he comes home from the most un-peaceful situations. Pray for our children, that they wouldn’t listen to the media or chatter they hear at school, but that they would ultimately know that their father is a good and noble man, a hero and a man of valor. As a cop’s wife, I feel these struggles deeply, knowing the pressure it places on our family.
A Final Prayer for the Cop Behind the Badge
In closing, pray for him . . . the human behind the badge. Pray that he would keep fighting for peace and justice in a world that screams hate and injustice towards him. Pray that God would bring him home every single day after every single shift, to his family that waits hours for his return. Pray that he would use wisdom in split-second decisions that could have a lifetime effect. I pray this not only for him but for all officers and their families. For the strength to keep going and for the safety of all our law enforcement officers. As a cop’s wife, it’s these prayers that keep me going, hoping for his safe return after every shift.
Standing Together in Harmony: A Cop’s Wife
I hope that as the media stirs the pot amongst the law enforcement community, that you would stand by us. Our family is honored to live this life and wouldn’t take it back for anything. Thank you to those who have loved and supported us on this ever-changing journey we call LIFE. As a cop’s wife. I cherish the support we get from our community. I also long for more understanding of what it truly means to be part of a law enforcement family.
Love, A Proud Cop’s Wife
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by Amberly Wrubleski | Dec 13, 2024 | Press Release
Pushing Boundaries for Mental Health: A First Responder’s Murph Challenge
The Murph Challenge is not for the faint of heart. It’s a grueling, full-body workout that tests both physical endurance and mental fortitude. But for those who took part in the recent 12-hour Murph Challenge, it was much more than just a physical feat—it was a way to honor the sacrifices made by first responders, military personnel, and veterans. This challenge was chosen as the centerpiece of an event to raise awareness for mental health resources, specifically supporting Legacy Place Society, a charity dedicated to helping first responders and their families.
The Murph Challenge: A Tribute to Sacrifice
The Murph is a full body workout. It consists of the following sequence for time: 1 mile run, 300 squats, 200 push-ups, 100 pull-ups, and a second 1-mile run.
This workout was originally created by U.S. Navy SEAL Lieutenant Michael Murphy, who was killed in Afghanistan. It was renamed in his honor to commemorate his service and sacrifice. The workout has become a symbol of dedication, resilience, and sacrifice, and it’s often performed to remember those who give so much for their country.
“We chose this workout to emphasize the utmost respect for his sacrifice, and to recognize the continued sacrifice and service of first responders, military, veterans, and many more who serve our country every day,” said Christian Olson with Lethbridge Police Services.
The Challenge Within the Challenge: 12 Hours of Murph
Completing a single Murph workout is already a formidable challenge for many, taking the average athletic person around 45-55 minutes. But for Christian and Terry who took on the 12-hour version, the challenge was magnified exponentially.
“We chose a 12-hour period to see how far we could push our bodies and minds to reach a common goal together, which was initially 12 Murph rounds, but we finished with 20!” Christian shared.
The decision to do a 12-hour version wasn’t just about testing physical limits. It was symbolic. “12 hours is also typically the length of many first responders’ shifts—police, fire, healthcare staff, etc. These shifts can be long, yet no matter how you’re feeling, emotionally or physically, there is an expectation that you are going to uphold. You will get through your shift and do your best to serve those we protect,” they explained.
Christian Olson and Terry Fieguth: The Driving Forces Behind the Challenge
Two individuals played a key role in bringing the 12-hour Murph Challenge to life: Christian and Terry. Their dedication and commitment to the cause were instrumental in the success of the event.
“Christian and Terry were the backbone of this event,” Diana Festejo, Executive Director of Legacy Place Society shared. “They not only took on the challenge but also made sure everything was organized and executed perfectly. Their leadership and energy are contagious, and they pushed one another to keep going, even when the going got tough.”
Terry, in particular, stood out for his unwavering positivity throughout the challenge. “Terry had a smile on his face for 12 hours, which was truly inspiring. He helped keep everyone motivated, and we knew there was no way we could stop while he was still going strong,” Christian added.
Christian’s determination was also a driving factor in the challenge’s success. “Christian was relentless, always encouraging the team to keep pushing forward. He constantly reminded us of the cause we were supporting, which kept us focused and energized. His leadership and mental toughness were crucial in getting through those long hours,” Terry noted.
Together, Christian and Terry exemplified the spirit of the Murph Challenge, pushing through both physical and mental barriers to raise funds and awareness for first responders’ mental health.
Connection to Legacy Place Society
The Murph Challenge was not just about pushing physical boundaries—it was also about making a meaningful impact. The event’s beneficiaries were Legacy Place Society, a nonprofit organization that provides mental health resources to first responders and their families.
“We chose Legacy Place Society as the beneficiary because they are an instrumental organization for first responders in need of mental health resources. This resonates both personally and professionally with me. Professionally, as a police officer diagnosed with PTSD and depression, suicidal ideation becomes a reality. Without resources such as Legacy Place Society, many first responders would have nobody to turn to in their darkest moments. This charity has saved lives and will continue to do so. Not only for first responders but also for their families, too,” said Christian.
The personal impact of the work done by Legacy Place Society was also evident. “I have personally felt the impact—losing relationships and connections because of the job I do and the effect it has on my mental health,” he reflected.
Preparing for the Challenge
The 12-hour Murph Challenge wasn’t something that could be tackled without careful preparation—both physically and mentally.
“Terry and I both started working in portions of the Murph into our daily workouts. The mental preparation was every morning leading up to the event. Getting out of bed, telling yourself the countdown of days until the challenge, knowing every day you just need to improve one physical aspect or mental aspect by 1%,” Christian explained.
Though the challenge was immense, there was never a moment when they felt like giving up. “Honestly, there was not any point that I felt like giving up, and Terry had a smile on his face for 12 hours so I know he had the same feeling. We both had our doubts, looking at the clock after hour number 3, seeing 5 Murphs on the board. Pouring rain, strong winds outside. It was incredible to work with Terry, there was no way either of us were stopping. In the back of my head was just telling myself, ‘I am still standing, I’m still breathing (barely), I have to keep going,’” he shared.
The Impact on the Community
For the participants, the 12 Hour Murph Challenge sent a powerful message to first responders, veterans, and their families:
“You’re not alone. You don’t have to suffer alone either. We are all fighting an internal battle. Don’t be embarrassed to talk about mental health. There is nothing more valuable than life and the relationships you have. Take care of your mental health, so you can take care of your families, and your community.”
The event also helped raise awareness for the mental health challenges that first responders face. “This type of event illustrates the efforts we are willing to take to show the community just how difficult it can be as a first responder. Breaking the silence and stigma. This type of event attracts attention to the fact that there are charities specifically for first responders and raises awareness for the fact that we really need these resources,” Christian noted.
Reflections and Takeaways
The challenge didn’t just reveal physical endurance—it also offered important insights into mental and emotional resilience.
“I learned that my mind, heart, and body are all very different but connected in a way that I can survive and undergo anything when they are all used together. My emotions, my heart, and body were all experiencing very different things but persevered as one to reach our goal. I learned that if I can undergo 12 hours of mental and physical pain, there is no problem, trial or tribulation that can challenge me more. I will use December 7th, 2024, for the rest of my life to reflect on when I’m struggling,” Christian reflected.
The support they received from the community was overwhelming. “The internal first responder/policing support was incredible. What stood out the most was the support from people who are not first responders—people who work ‘regular’ jobs. Hearing ‘thank you for what you guys do,’ ‘You guys are amazing,’ ‘What a great cause,’ these comments stood out to me knowing we are shedding light on the mental health stigma we deal with every day.”
12 Hour Murph Supporting Legacy Place Society
So, how can others contribute to this vital cause?
“Anyone can create a fundraiser! I recommend anyone get in touch with Legacy Place, familiarize yourself with the Canada Helps website, and find a way to contribute,” Christian advised.
And for anyone intimidated by the idea of taking on a challenge like the Murph, he had this to say: “The only thing stopping you from this type of challenge is you. I knew this was insane when I started it. Honestly, at one point, I didn’t think it was possible. We did it, and we almost doubled our goal. Let the cause of the challenge be the fuel to light the fire, and watch as the success falls into place.”
The Rewards of Giving Back
For the participants, the most rewarding aspect of the experience was knowing that the funds they raised could directly help someone in need.
“Knowing the money we raised may be the reason a first responder connects with Legacy Place Society. Knowing our challenge could make a difference in someone’s life who is considering suicide, experiencing family or financial strain, or a number of other reasons,” they said.
As for future challenges? “We will be doing another challenge. I think we will stick to fitness, as it provides such clarity in mental health. I’m hoping we get creative again and find a unique challenge, hopefully getting other branches of first responders involved in the next fundraiser!”
This 12-hour Murph Challenge was more than just an event—it was a powerful statement of resilience, determination, and solidarity. It demonstrated the strength and courage of those who serve our communities every day, and it raised awareness for the critical mental health resources that first responders need. Through events like these, we can continue to break the stigma surrounding mental health and show support for those who often feel they have nowhere to turn. Christian and Terry’s leadership and perseverance were key to the success of this challenge, and their efforts will continue to inspire others to push boundaries for an important cause.
by Amberly Wrubleski | Nov 18, 2024 | News & Events
Giving Tuesday: Support First Responders & Their Families (Online Campaign – Canada Helps Platform (until December 3, 2024)
Event Description:
This Giving Tuesday, join us in showing gratitude and support for the brave first responders, veterans, and their families who selflessly serve our communities. As the nation’s emergency personnel and military heroes face increasing mental health challenges, your donation can provide vital resources and services that help them thrive.
About the Campaign:
At Legacy Place Society, we are dedicated to supporting those who serve and protect us every day. With your generosity, we can continue to offer essential mental health resources, transitional housing, wellness workshops, and crisis intervention services to first responders and veterans in need.
This Giving Tuesday, we’re focusing on:
- Mental Health Support: Provide access to crucial mental health resources for first responders and veterans facing the invisible wounds of service.
- Transitional Housing: Help provide safe and supportive housing for families in crisis.
- Wellness Workshops: Fund programs to promote overall well-being, resilience, and mental health education.
- Crisis Intervention: Ensure that emergency personnel and military families have access to immediate support during times of crisis.
How You Can Help:
- Donate: Your contribution, no matter the size, directly supports life-changing services. Many companies offer donation matching—check with your employer to maximize your impact.
- Spread the Word: Share this campaign with your network and encourage others to donate.
- Partner with Us: Learn about sponsorship and matching opportunities for businesses and organizations looking to support our heroes.
Why Giving Tuesday Matters:
Giving Tuesday is one of the most impactful days of the year for charitable organizations. It’s a time when individuals come together to give back to their communities, and this year, we’re focusing on the heroes who give so much for all of us. Your donation helps ensure that we can continue to provide essential services to first responders, veterans, and their families.
How Your Donation Helps:
- $50 provides one individual with access to a mental health workshop or counseling session.
- $100 ensures one family has a night of safe, supportive housing.
- $250 covers a full day of training for a first responder, ensuring they have the tools to manage their mental health and intervene when necessary.
- $500 funds one full ASIST workshop, equipping first responders with life-saving skills.
Every donation counts in building stronger, healthier communities for those who have given so much to protect and serve. Let’s make a difference together this Giving Tuesday.
For More Information:
Visit our campaign page on CanadaHelps to donate and learn more about our mission to support first responders, veterans, and their families. Together, we can help them heal and thrive.
by Amberly Wrubleski | Nov 5, 2024 | News & Events
2024 Legacy Place Society Annual General Meeting – Join Us to Learn About Our Impact and Growth
Join us for the 2024 Legacy Place Society Annual General Meeting (AGM) to learn about our achievements this year. Legacy Place Society, dedicated to supporting First Responders, Veterans, and their families, has made great strides in mental health, education, and community outreach. During this meeting, we’ll share the highlights of our programs and the impact we’ve made.
This year, we’ve expanded our housing programs, workshops, and mental wellness support. We’ve reached more communities and have seen positive outcomes from our events and initiatives.
Light refreshments will be available. Doors open at 5:45 pm for networking before the meeting begins. Whether you’ve been supporting us for years or are new to our cause, the AGM is a great opportunity to stay informed and engaged.
The meeting will be held both virtually and in person. To register and get the virtual meeting link or to attend in person, email info@legacyplacesociety.com. We welcome all members, supporters, and community members to join us.
Your participation will help us continue to support mental health and resilience for First Responders, Veterans, and their families. We look forward to seeing you there!
by Amberly Wrubleski | Oct 25, 2024 | News & Events, Press Release
Lethbridge, Alberta – On October 24, 2024, Legacy Place Society hosted its annual Lethbridge Suicide Awareness Conference, focusing on the unique mental health challenges faced by first responders. Hundreds of participants, including police officers, paramedics, firefighters, and military personnel, came together to improve mental wellness in their communities. Moreover, their collective efforts highlighted the importance of unity and resilience. As a result, the event fostered stronger connections and greater awareness of mental health challenges.
Addressing the Mental Health Crisis Among First Responders
The Lethbridge Suicide Awareness conference featured expert speakers and workshops that provided valuable resources and strategies for tackling mental health issues in high-stress professions. The Canadian Mental Health Association reports that first responders face a higher risk of depression and PTSD due to their exposure to traumatic events. Therefore, to ensure adequate support, it is essential to prioritize education across all industries.This year was our first year in Lethbridge, and with a turnout of over 125 First Responders it showed the need for these kind of supports.
“Events like this are crucial,” said Diana Destejo, Executive Director of Legacy Place Society. “They provide a safe space for first responders to share their experiences and learn from one another.”
Key Highlights from the Conference
- Educational Workshops: Participants engaged in workshops focused on resilience-building, coping strategies, and understanding mental health challenges specific to first responders.
- Resource Distribution: Attendees received materials that support their mental health journeys.
- Community Support: The conference fostered connections among first responders, creating a supportive network that extends beyond the event.
Join Us in Making a Difference
Legacy Place Society actively enhances mental health awareness and support for first responders. Learn more about our future initiatives today or get involved by visiting our website or contacting us directly. Together, we will create a supportive community that prioritizes mental wellness and empowers first responders to thrive.
Thank You to Our Sponsors
We extend our gratitude to the City of Lethbridge, The Rolling Barrage, Belairdirect Insurance, Government of Alberta, Mental Health Foundation of Alberta, and AUPE for their generous support.
Lethbridge hosts inaugural suicide awareness conference for first responders
