TED, which stands for Technology, Entertainment and Design, contributes some of the most inspirational videos on the internet.
And speakers having a time limit of 18 minutes, those bits of inspiration come in small but mighty packages. TED Talks can become a fullfilling way to pass the time during breaks in schedules or morning and evening commutes. We get to expand and grow ourselves every day by listening to other people’s stories of hardship, hard-won triumphs, life lessons and discoveries, instead of just zoning out.
On particularly challenging days, when we feel we need that kick in the ass, maybe consider some of these TED talks to motivate or be inspired.
Here are some of the TED Talks that speak to long-held judgments and beliefs that limit us in life…
What do people who have a sense of worthiness—of love and belonging—have in common? They believe that what makes them vulnerable makes them beautiful. And in a world where we still see vulnerability as a “weakness,” Brené shows us through her research how it’s the only way to live if we want to feel deeply connected to others as we move through life.
BEST QUOTE: “In order for connection to happen, we have to allow ourselves to be seen. Truly seen.”
She challenges us to start looking at our limitations as “magnificent gifts that help us ignite our imaginations, and help us go further than we ever knew we could go.”
BEST QUOTE: “This is when I learned our borders and our obstacles can only do 2 things: 1) Stop us in our tracks or 2) Force us to get really creative.”
BEST QUOTE: “I’m not afraid of my feelings anymore. I know they can take over for a little while but at the end of the day they’re just guides telling me what is the next right thing to do.”
When we judge and berate ourselves for our failures, Tracy helps us see that nothing is a failure if we learn from it. She talks about the idea of marrying ourselves, where we enter into a sacred relationship with ourselves and then fully commit to ourselves right where we are, for better or worse, in sickness and in health, learning to forgive ourselves for our mistakes. After all, how can we ever really commit to another person if we can’t make this deep commitment to ourselves?
BEST QUOTE: “You’ll learn that there is no man, woman, job or circumstance that is going to make you whole. And this changes your life.”
She speaks of shame, public humiliation and of doing what so many of us have done before but were probably never judged so harshly for…falling in love with the wrong person. Unfortunately for her, that wrong person was her boss and the President of the United States, Bill Clinton. Her talk reminds us of the impact we have on another human being when we subject them to cyber-bullying, ridicule, humiliation, cruel comments and judgement.
BEST QUOTE: “Can I see the hands of someone who didn’t make a mistake or regret a decision they made at the age of 22?”
She takes away the glaring judgements we have around infidelity by explaining why it happens and what we are searching for when we cheat on our partners.
BEST QUOTE: “Affairs are way less about sex and more about desire…desire for attention, desire to feel special, desire to feel important.”
According to Meg Jay, the truth is our 20s are a time when the things we do and don’t do will have an enormous effect on our lives down the line. We’ve trivialized what is actually the defining decade of adulthood.
She shares stories of her 20-something clients and students who come into her office talking about relationships and jobs they know they shouldn’t be in and dreams they’ve put on hold because they feel they have all the time in the world to pursue what they really want. Until they find themselves in their 30s with fewer options and a lot less time.
BEST QUOTE:“What do you think happens when you pat your 20-something on the back and tell them they have plenty of time? You have robbed that person of their urgency and ambition and nothing happens.”
May these be of benefit to you.
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